"MOTHER, SHOW ME HOW."

whoa! spiderwebs are everywhere ! 

salam'alaik.

long time no write! i guess I've even lost my typing skill. 

but whatever. 

now let me begin the story. 

(i think i forgot how to start an essay.introduction will always be my flaw.deal with it.)

well, this evening, i came across this one scenario. 

i was in the car in front of my uncle's house .

and my dad was leaning against the car door,

watching some kids flying a kite.

suddenly, the kite went round and round and dropped to the ground. the kids were upset.

and my father was dumbfounded.

and the dialogue goes;

dad : what happened?

kid : the string is too short. we tied it to a blade of grass and the string was detached from it.

dad laughed hysterically.

ikat tali layang layang kat rumput? nice one, kids.

done with the kite,

the kids ran up a tree and continue playing. 

my dad approached em and asked some friendly questions. 

i watched silently from afar. 

after having several lines of conversation with the kids

(and i saw some laughter too), 

my dad came to me and said ;

"i interviewed one of the kids. and this is what i get. 

the kid get the last number in his class which is the last ranked class in the school. 

and his parents go to work from 8 am to 8 pm on every single day".

my dad almost weep i can see.

sympathetic. 

but i simply replied : "adopt them". 

with a broad smile on my face.

as if it is that easy.

my dad continue watching.

and the gears in my head started moving.

...

well, i heard this statement quite frequently.

"what's the purpose of struggling in studies if we know that at the end of the day, we will end up in the kitchen making meals for the family?"

and to be honest,

i was kinda influenced by the statement though.

when i feel tired of studying,

tired of struggling in understanding the lectures,

tired of having the pressure when the exams are around the corner,
i will find the statement crawling before me in my head.

i will find myself agreeing to a notion like this :

Islam taught us to be loyal to the family and serve the husband every single second in life. and it supports the statement that women will eventually end up doing all the house chores when they get married.

what an excuse.

getting back to the scenario i was having this evening,

i came to realize that :

1. getting a good education is something that requires you to be lucky.

2. and parents are responsible in deciding their children's luck. 

3. not to forget, the statement in red should be rephrased.

after having a round of debate going on in my head,

i finally drew these conclusions ;

it will be fruitless if i blame the parents who didn't perform well in their academics. so i decided to put the responsibilities on my generation instead. 

so here it goes.

dear friends,

here's an advice for you
(for myself as well).

GET A GOOD EDUCATION AND REACH AS HIGH AS YOU CAN.

because we need more intelligent people in the future in order to educate and change the fate of our next generations.

make sure that we don't have the chance to blame the poverty that we might be having in the future.

because we never know how HE arranges our fortunes later,

but we can be certain on giving a good education to our children with the hardly-earned knowledge that we have now. 

and for the ladies out there, 

stop thinking that your education will just be a waste when you get married.

yes you might end up in the kitchen with the frying pan in your right hand and your 2 year old son in the left arm, but you can decide whether to pass your intelligence and knowledge to your children or just throw it into the garbage bin outside your house. 

be smart.

and be an awesome mother.

:D